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A straight man's view


First, I'll be honest. I'm straight. But I grew up in an area that had a lot of gay people, and I wanted to share some of the stories associated with it.

Anyway, in my area the high schools have academy programs, meaning you can apply to go to a school across the city to be in their academy. I got in the IB program (think college prep school mixed with high school and some global awareness stuff) and the high school that had the IB program was Princess Anne. PA (at least when I went) had a healthy 33% of gay people (not all of them out of the closet yet, but we loved them anyway).

People who don't know better ask me why I tolerate "gays". When bullies were beating me up in high school, the first person to ever stick up for me was gay. Furthermore, if ever I have met a group that generally cares about people... Didn't matter what charity it was, you could expect 90% of the drama, chorus, and band kids to be gung-ho for it.

I've noticed that its different at university though. While we do have a gay population here, its... different. High school had a gay-straight-alliance club. Doesn't exist here. The one time I did go to a meeting, I could feel everyone staring at me. An interesting turn around, but it quickly lost its novelty >.<

Granted, one of the disadvantages of having an open mindset is that a lot of people get the wrong opinion of me. Most of the time I don't care about it, but there are occassions when it matters. Like trying to explain to my super southern family that a)i was straight, and b)that it shouldn't matter anyway.

Coincidentally, the most awkward conversation I have ever had with my aunt is the one where she asked me if you can get std's from same sex. And then having her ask me if her daughters were "ya know". ::shakes head::

So anyway, I find it refreshing to see communities that support each other and stuff. Rock on and etcs. And for all of you who went with "confused" in the polls, there is an easy way to check to see what orientation you are. Close your eyes. Think about yourself ten years from now with your dream house, your dream car, your dream job, everything that makes you happy. Finally, think about who you would want to share that with. Whichever person would complete that picture. Recognize that it doesn't matter if that person is male, female, white, black, purple, or whatever. Happiness isn't supposed to discriminate.

Having spoken far too many words and probably unintentionally insulted someone somewhere, I now make my ninja escape! *poof*

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... <3 That was so well written, yeeey~ <3

While I'm only in High School myself, ( Which, as per usual, I swear I don't write/type my age >__< ) I get looks from time to time. When we were talking about Junior Prom (To which I'm not going to. I think it's a waste of my time), one of my friends mentioned how none of us are going out with anyone. And I stated that for me, I don't care who I fall in love with, and she wjust quickly jumped to the "But you're straight, right?" D< Even with a GSA at my school, people seem a bit unwanting of it. While they may seem more accepting, it's only because no one they know is homosexual, thus no need to accept it. Other friends of mine give me a look and slight pause before scontinuing the conversation when we're on the subject and I state my veiw. And I rather hate it.

Fortunatly for me, My family is open minded as well, and doesn't care. While they've said they'd rather me be straight, I can see why. People don't want to accept it, and others will outright deny it, try to change you, or other stupid things, causing lots of other problems.

And as for the "confused" thing, it's can always change. xP 'Cause personally, I dont' see myself with anyone I know now, but first person comes to mind is a girl, but I don't know who. Dx Sometimes I run through my head if any of my friends I would actually see myself with, but I quickly elimited, like, all of them. for some reason or another. Some because they hate Homosexuals ( D> ), Others because I just couldn't see it happening, ect. Dx

EDIT : x3 I want someone who's purple. =D Purple is a fun color. xDDD

-- Edited by NyaChan at 01:21, 2008-02-19

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That's a good point...it's a shame the hateful ones don't see past differences.
As for my future...oddly, I can't see anyone.

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Mytois you desirve a cookie and a hug because you are awesome
your a great friend and we need more open minded people like you

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there are always going to be people in the world who hate. ironically, because everyone else tries to accept them for who they are, they are allowed to continue to hate. its not right to tell them they're wrong (and they are oh so quick to point that out) yet is it also not right to let them continue as they are?

so we're wrong if we let them hate, we're wrong if we hate them for hating, its just plain silly to love them for hating, so what, do we ignore them? i can say from experience that ignoring or running away from the problem doesn't help. if only i had options that produced better results...

i mean, preferrably you'd just show the mean people why them being mean is stupid. but you're not allowed to tell people they're being stupid. all these rules and limitations!

and yeah, don't bother with junior prom. i'd also not bother with senior prom, to be honest. my parents forced me to go (when they knew perfectly well my reasons for not wanting to go) and i had nothing really to do but drink smoothies and occasionally dance when they played the few songs i didn't dislike.

*edit: i bakes the cookies! yays! chocolate chip or peanut butter? any other types and i have to look up a recipe...

-- Edited by gejsiv at 23:35, 2008-02-19

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darkside, I greatly appreciate that. Thank you!
I wish the people in my area were half as appreciating as that.

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Well at least your school had an Allence club. In my school we have to hide who we are due to what would happen. See, last person in my school who said he was Gay started a mini war (Homophobe beat him up, his friend retaliated) and it got to the point where people had come in with black eyes everyday. Some even lost teeth!

Thos eventually, the boy left school and it died down. So to stop it happing everyone has to act like everyone else and pretend to be what we don't want to be. Even say things we don't mind and curse ourselves later >> Tho some have their own ways around it. (Pretending its a joke when it not) Tho I am no a fan of it. Anyway yeah, my school is like an extreme Cathlic school (Tho I'm Atheist myself) and the teachers do taunt the gay kids. The only teach I had any respect was the only Gay teacher in my school because he was so proud and got some attacked Expelled.

Anyway its sadly STILL a warzone. And sadly they drag you in at every opportunaty so its hard to stay out. Geez...... you can tell nobodies happy. The school is so depressing around the topic.

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i do im glad you dont let other get you down and you stand up for what you believe in and do you like sugar cookies


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Oh, yeah. Sugar cookies for the win. XD

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lol i know who doesnt like sugar cookies =3

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My dad, actually. Which is weird, because he hated anything that wasn't himself. Is that a coincidence or what?

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Hmm. I wonder if my college has a gay-straight alliance club, because that sounds like something I'd be interested in. ASU's one of the bigger colleges in the nation, so I'd assume so.

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Ugh, I don't even know where my school stands on it. I think we have an unspoken "Don't ask, Don't tell" poicy between most students. Add the fact that it's a Catholic school but it's in Ontario, and I have no idea what anyone thinks. I actually only know three GLBT people other than myself. One's still in the closet (you can tell), one is my best friend and the other is something an outcast (although he doesn't show it).

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