Ok so yeah... I need to just kinda get things off my chest. Apologies if it annoys anyone.
I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl I fell in love with 8 months ago [tomorrow is our anniversary] We're also engaged.
She even asked my mother if it was ok to date me [my mom doesn't know about the engagement thank god.]
My mother said it was fine, but when she recently came down for christmas[ she had been here once before over the summer] my mom suddenly started getting ancy and wierd. I can understand if it's like a defense mechanism mothers do, but it kinda "erks" me off a bit. The first time Dani [my girlfriend] came down, she was fine with us staying in the same room. But then after we made plans for the next time, my mom made rules like "No closing the bed room door." and "One sleeps in the room and one sleeps on the couch." So me and her only got time to see eachother in the day time and before bed.
I can honestly say I was relieved for day to come for the week she stayed.
The biggest thing that "erks" me though is the fact that now my mother is trying hard to keep her from coming down.
It started when she was here for Christmas, and I wasn't feeling well suddenly. i got a bad migrane and wanted to lay down so I did. I closed the door because i didn't like the noise, and I had taken medicine that made me sleepy. I was half awake when Dani came in to lay down with me and hold and cuddle me. all that good sappy crap that I love when she does it. =^-^= But then mom came in and put some clothes up, then told me to come into the kitchen. I didn't hear her so Dani told me to go see her. i walked in and she suddenly Yelled at me practically about why the door was closed and why she was in there laying with me. i tried to explain to her about what was wrong but she didn't let me finished and respectivly told me to "F*** off" so I did and went to the room, sitting on the bed and crying.
The big thing is she lets my friends spend the night and sleep in the same bed with me... but she won't let Dani. I mean... yeah. you know.
Dani even talked to my mother on the phone recently to ask her if she could come down on my birthday because she had something planned for it. and my mom told her no... and when dani told me i broke down.
But anyways.
I apologize that was long and such. i just kinda needed to get it out by typing it...since I've already b***ed enough about it in voice. thanks for all of your times and patience.
Okay, if this was me, I would be like (For the first instance, where your mother had an issue with your girlfriend conforting you and such) "I'm sorry, LET ME FINISH. D<"
... But one : I'm currently not dating either gender... and two: So long as no STDs are involed, good for us. xD And like me and whoever would be stoopeed enough.
Lol. I wish I could have done it. But if you knew my mom you probably wouldn't wanna argue. She's called "The Bulldog" for a reason. Her bite is worse than her bark. and sometimes her bark sucks too. XD
i think ur mom's reaction is normal, i mean...my sister was caught in the middle of you now what with her boyfriend at home and my aunt told her not to do that again, not at home, and told her to keep the door opened when they were together.
well, the situation is a little different but it'll pass, don't worry.
The difference between your girlfriend and your friends is...well...huge. You don't kiss or have sex with your friends. I think it's obvious why she wants you to keep the door open and why she wants you two sleeping in seperate rooms. I would probably do the same thing.
As for the misunderstanding, you should have explained anyway. You had a migraine and the sounds were hurting you. Sounds suck when you have a migraine. That and lights. xx
Yeah each one of you are probably right. It's just something I'll have to get through. But you can't blame me... It's a natrual thing for highschoolers and such... but anywho. Thanks for all your replies!
It is natural for teenagers to want to be along with their girl/boyfriends, of course. It is even natural for you want to do do...er...things; however, you're not mentally or physically ready for it. I know a lot of teenagers think they are, but they're not. There's a reason why underage sex is illegal.
Taking that step when you're young is a mistake and it ends more relationships than it helps.
i think you can have sex with anyone you want, you just need to look around and see if you're in the right place, cuz you're parents house is not a good place, specially when they don't want you to do it, you know?
i say this because i wouldn't like to cacht my sister having sex at home...o.O' so, we tell them to go to a motel or another place away from home. i don't know if you have age to go to a motel but...that's a detail XD~~
Meh, my mom often is the same way, once she gets mad ya gotta wait till she cools down, but often it ends in her being super careful with rules and stuff. Tho I probably would have screamed at her Migrain or no, I guess thats cause i'm used to being gnored when I'm right.
Personally, I think ya gotta go tell your mom, its not gonna get better if ya don't right? I mean your not stupid, you know this stuff. Show her you do ^^
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