Hi NekoMeow here...well I guess I have a problem, I'm single right now, lol..
But that's not my real problem...
I have a Girl Friend, her name's Taryn, and I have been best friends with since first grade. I love her to death as a friend, and I can sometimes think of her as more then a friend. But, my problem is, I have been noticing strong advances sexually (lol, that sounded bad) that she gives me when we are around each other, and I could almost cry in joy, if it were'nt for the fact that I've known her since we were Barbie-obsessed kids, and my body just naturally pulls away from being seriouse about her advances.
I guess that would be my problem... I can sometimes think I like her, but then I remmember our time as kids, and I just can't take the whole thing seriously.
Do you think I should stop her? Or should I see if the feelings I have for her are for real?
@-@ all I know is, it is confusing!!!!
P.s. I'm really sorry everyone, this post makes me sound really selfesh...But I do need the help.
Hmm, yeah, I seem to remember reading that a study showed that most people are much less likely to feel much attraction to people they've grown up with. It seems like some kind of block forms on it to keep things from getting too complicated in childhood, but they have been known to be broken through.
The main thing, though, is that you've got to figure out how you really feel about her. From what you've described of your feelings for her, it could well be that you actually are attracted to her underneath, but it's being suppressed by your childhood memories. It's possible to break these kinds of mental blocks, if you want to, although it's hard. I wouldn't act until you've done that though - as on the other hand, it could be that it's the attraction you're feeling is what's false. It'd really, really suck if you jumped in then realised you actually weren't attracted to her in the first place.
There's also a good chance that she's going through a similar conflict, if you're reading her right.
(For some reason, I can just imagine her posting on another forum like this one:) NekoMeow's friend, on the Ikiat webcomic forum
I've known my best friend since first grade. She's awesome, and we've always gotten along really well. The thing is, lately I've been seeing her...kind of in a different light. Sometimes. It's really confusing - sometimes she's just my best friend, other times she's an awesome girl I'd like to know even better. And sometimes when she'll do something sweet that I just can't help responding to, and it seems like she responds and it feels really good...but also really strange. I have no idea whether I'd actually want to be in that kind of relationship with her, since I love her to bits...but as my best friend, and I don't know whether it'd be better or worse if it changed. I just can't figure out what I really feel.
Any advice?
Sorry. Sometimes things get stuck in my head and won't go away until they're written down.
Regardless of the whole childhood thing, there does seem to be some attraction and some chemistry he feel toward her. At the very least, it's something to think about and possibly explore. I know that doing this with a best friend can be difficult. Trust me, I do know, but think about how scared she is if she's really trying to give you hints.
