Help.

Sora101 · Active Member

Help.

Susanah · Master Member

Don't really know, you gotta decide for yourself, but I would do it, I think.

gappiee · Guru

hmmmm i think you gotta decide it for yourself ...... but think about it; does she like you back?
im guessing you dont know(assuption) and i think it would be a way to figure it out, maybe not entirely but you might get some hints.....

and well if you do know its really up to you but if you do know i wouldnt do it, if she likes you just ask for a real date and dont get it mixed up with some learning stuff and if she doesnt it would probably only make you unhappy...

all of the above is based on assumptions so please think for yourself aswell =) and good luck with the finding the awnser

Sora101 · Active Member

She still has a boyfriend. Here the convo we had though.

K: Hey, it would be so funny if we did the project and it was us on a date.
Me: Uh*I was like blushing and I couldn't breath* Maybe.
K: Yeah, I tottaly left my boyfriend and went lesbian.
Me: (I just looked at her kinda shocked).

I'm not sure if she know's or if she was hinting something or if she was hitting on me. If she know's she handles it pretty well. I mean, I think she's stunning, it's just that I don't know if I should tell her I feel....besides doing the project i'm uncomfortable doing that infront of the class. Then My other friend was like" Yeah, you guy's could like kiss or you know go mwah"...or somthing and I was like...."What?...uh"

-- Edited by Sora101 on Thursday 25th of March 2010 11:34:37 PM

-- Edited by Sora101 on Thursday 25th of March 2010 11:58:28 PM

gappiee · Guru

hmmmm kinda hard to tell through the internet..... illthink some on this, its still to early for me to give usefull advice .... or any advice at all i cant really tell if my advice is of any use =/

Sora101 · Active Member

could you give it anyway?

gappiee · Guru

hmmm kinda hard i dont wanna encourage doing something stupid the problem is i cant seem to figure out what the stupid thing would be =/..... btw does she know your into girls ? (im assuming not cuz of all the trouble) i would say tell her you like her but that might be a bit of a shock. i dont know her so i cant predict her response (meaning i cant tell how well it would be handled) ........ i think im officially of no use now.

ill let ya know if i think of something usefull .... when do you have to decide?

LadyTwilight · Senior Member

I'd really want to tell you to try telling her very simply and honestly, that you want to go on a date with her for real. I'd think that sums up quickly that you like girls, and like her--but there's that boyfriend wrench in the works, and the moveaway business as well. It's a pretty tragic scenario.

If she rejects 'cause she doesn't like you, well, you're rejected and that'll hurt. If she reject 'cause she doesn't like girls, you're...out of luck, and that'll hurt, too. If she rejects because she's /taken/ but likes you back, /she'll/ be the one hurting... If she /accepts/, suddenly the boyfriend's in the cold if she subscribes to 1:1 relationships...

I can't exactly suggest dating multiple people at once because that's not the normal thing to do outside people that already understand it...

Even with all of these, I want to say to do it anyway just to follow your heart but that's kinda irresponsible, the others and yourself can chime in for or against it!

-- Edited by LadyTwilight on Monday 29th of March 2010 01:04:36 PM

gappiee · Guru

im acctually for i think but i still dont wanna tell ya to do something irresponsible.....

anyway i think telling is the best... at least it will be off your chest, even though the result will hurt someone.....

hmmm the longer i think about this the more stupid it seems to tell her but ill stick with my first thoughts ...... i think you cant win unless you risk losing! (losing will obviously also be an option if you try winning)

Sora101 · Active Member

Thanks guys but I don't think I can tell her. I'm too scared, you know. She has um hit on me a couple of times since then, (i.e. she ran her finger on just by my shoulders before I went to play hockey with my friends, and then last week she dotted her fingers on my back when I was talking to my friends.) I actually think she knows, 'cuz L(another one of my friends who's a girl) knows I'm uh into girls, I think, and she probly told her.

gappiee · Guru

.... seems like talking to L and asking if she told K(or was it some other letter =/ ) would be a good option then... it would make everything easier(making shure is always good) or maybe less scary

Sora101 · Active Member

well...I just think she told her the im into girls...not like she told K how I felt yet. L thinks I have a crush on this other girl J and yeah. The fake date thing got cancelled btw.

gappiee · Guru

well if you think she told her wouldnt it be better to be shure? and i dont think just asking if she did would hurt.....

Sora101 · Active Member

Yeah but what if she didn't tell her...then that would be really akward. I think K likes me 'cuz this one time I think I caught her staring at me and she looked away pretty fast, 'cept now I'm thinking that if K doesn't like me and I tell her I'd ruin our friendship and I don't want to do that.

gappiee · Guru

what would be akward ? just make up some excuse to ask .. what letter was it again? L if she told K (dont do that when K is arround cuz that would make it akward) btw cant we use surrogate names or something .... i have a hard time remembering those letters...

something like

K = Kate
L = laura
J = John

makes it easier to remember or some other system... maybe dice => d20, d10, d6.
i play a lot of DnD so i could remember that =P

Sora101 · Active Member

Sure, well use those names. It would be akaward because I usually don't talk to laura about that kind of stuff...I mean I trust her and everything but there's a good chance that...okay I'm just gonna give K's first name...kirsten would find out. It not that I don't want her to know...its just...if she does like me back that's great...if she dosen't well I just put our whole friendship into question...you know.

Susanah · Master Member

f she is a good friend, then I think even if she didn't like you back that way, she would still be your friend, perhaps a little freaked, but still:)

Sora101 · Active Member

Maybe...I just..don't want to lose her. You know what I mean?

gappiee · Guru

wow im out of advice... for now(maybe ill think of more later, could be to late though =) )

... you could always flip a coin, leave it to chance =) (this is not advice, its better to make a decision [did i spell that right ?] yourself)

Sora101 · Active Member

I think I'm nearly over her. I mean it's still there but I'll move on. Kirtsen I mean.