The Sexuality Thread

Nobody · Moderator

The Sexuality Thread

Sora · Senior Member

LOL! Woot! XD

angie · Master Member

Yay, just becouse I tell people at school I'm a lesbian they think I'm all like "Ohoho! Girls~! Gifu me girls! >D" ._. or they think I have a girlfriend... or they laugh o_O I have no idea why they do the last one though... mostly they do all of it, or they get scared and walks away in silence xD

Nobody · Moderator

angie wrote:

Yay, just becouse I tell people at school I'm a lesbian they think I'm all like "Ohoho! Girls~! Gifu me girls! >D" ._. or they think I have a girlfriend... or they laugh o_O I have no idea why they do the last one though... mostly they do all of it, or they get scared and walks away in silence xD

That's because they're all homophobic! Rawr!!

angie · Master Member

Precisely! And my whole school is full of them D:

Sora · Senior Member

Hahahah, welcome to the world! XD; I found out that teasing homophobes makes life a whole lot more enjoyable.

angie · Master Member

Well, it actually is, but to just piss them of is also quite fun... >D and that's why I'm planning to put up pictures from 4chan's /u/ section at school :3

angie · Master Member

Nobody: Their /u/ sections is where all the Yuri is :'3 But IS not just all mindless sex! D: There also discussions sometimes, like a "How to come out to your parents"-discussion

Mweh, I like 4chan D: and I don't think I've heard anything from 4Kids ._.
Right now I have som sparetime, and a printer... and lots of yuri... what is the best thing to do? That's right! :'D Put my evil plan into action! >D

-- Edited by angie at 07:40, 2007-11-15

Gothic_Pheonix · Lurker

Nobody wrote:

Okay, you have to have a sexuality thread here. Pretty much what this is, is a poll...obviously. What sexuality are you?

I'll explain some of the options.

Curious
Do you find yourself wondering about certain sexual things? Wonder what it might be like?

Confused
You think you might be a sexuality, but you're not entirely sure.

Nonsexual
You really don't care about sex. You never think about it.

Open
Girl, guy, anything between... You don't care. You have a sexual preference, but find you can fall in love with anyone, regardless of your physical attractions.

I suppose I'm a lesbian. I'm going to become a girl and I like girls... I don't know what else to call it. I won't vote right away. I'll open my vote up for discussion. I'm honestly confused about this. I've asked some lesbians before and they've said that my situation makes me a lesbian, but...

Last year I said I was bi, but in my heart I knew I was a lesbian. I guess I was trying to protect myself. i've known, for some strange reason, for years that I liked girls ( 5 or 6) because they were nicer to me then the boys. Who were mean to me for being too nice, I guess, an I had guy bullies, never a girl bully then. But at that time i liked girls like friendships but by eighth grade...things changed and I realized things, sexuality, and knew. My mom still thinks I am bi, and I'm not going to tell her or her side of te family, i am a lesbian until I'm in college. Because when my grandpa found out, he and my mom were talking, he said as long as I don't turn lesbian and have a child then it's all ok, and my mom agrees...and it kind of hurts. i am 16 and am a sopmore who should be a junior. I've moved schools a lot, from Burton Valley because I wan't in there area district ( Elementary school) to a terrible Pittsburg school, back to Walnut Creek then continuing junior high in Walnut Creek..the n transforing back again to a laffeyette school for my highschool years. So yeah.

Nobody · Moderator

I can see how that would hurt. They basically said that you're useless if you can't have babies. That's messed up.

Shii · Active Member

hm, i would say that i'm more of a lesbian because guys are major dicks! D8;;; seriously!

and women are way more attractive than guys...>D

Nobody · Moderator

Yep, any day! Girls all the way!

Then again, I'm biased as a lesbian. XD

Shii · Active Member

heck ya! XD; girls! *raises fist* 8D

its ok! *pats* i still think i'm bi at times. but i'm pretty sure i'm a lesbian. its all good though! 8D

Nobody · Moderator

I have those moments, too. Where I'm like, "Am I bi?" But then I nearly vomit from the thought and it passes. oo;;

Shii · Active Member

haha! XD; i know what you mean! Guys these days....omfg. -__-;;; they're just so mean....i hate them! D

Nobody · Moderator

You know what's weird? Only about 9% of the population is homosexual, but only 12% of the forum population is straight. It's pretty funny when you think about it. lol

Johan · Veteran Member

So, boys are mean. Yes ... and no. I'm a boy. And i can't say i'm a nice guy. I've changed this two last years, but i was violent since pimary school. First it was to protect my brother (older than me, and a total jerk XD ) and my little sister. Or that's what i though. But i realised some years after that i just liked it. To kick butts. To be hurt. Even now i can't say why. I'm not a nice guy. No mater what i'll do, it won't change the past.
I have a lot of regret ... but all this things i've done have lead me to who i am now. I smile, i laugh, i cry and i comfort those in pain (or i try). I like to go out and enjoy the sun, or the moonlight. I feel alive. And still i ... i'm not going anywhere sorry XD So, yes, some guys are just total jerk. Some are angels. And personnaly, i rarely met girl that were mean. So ... huh ... oups, it wasn't the topic ...
So, i said i was straight. In fact i could be gay or bi or anything, i don't really know. I never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend ... I think i'm straigh but it's more complicated than that. And this is getting too long i'm sorry:)

-- Edited by Johan at 21:55, 2007-12-10

Nobody · Moderator

Don't feel like your post is too long. With something this complicated, we understand. We also all know how tough an issue sexuality is. It's difficult to find out and then admit you aren't heterosexual. Sometimes it's hard just finding out you actually are heterosexual. Like I said, it gets complicated quickly.

Johan · Veteran Member

I guess this is a difficult matter for everyone. My problem is someone tried to force me. A guy. Don't get me wrong, i wasn't ... you know. He just pushed me violently to a wall and tried to kiss me. I took all my willpower not to ... i don't know, but i fled quickly after pushing him back. I was really afraid. Not afraid of him, but because i knew I could have break him in two. Before that, he tried to convince me several times, saying i didn't know i was gay. Sometimes i was almost believing him. Then he did that.
I have friends, a lot of. Boys and girls, that i care deeply about. But i don't even try to, you know, really like someone. I'm disgusted, and this is stupid. I shouldn't be.

Sakura · Lurker

Johan, I know how you feel.

When I was younger, and confused about my sexuality, I tried dating a guy for a while. After a while, he wanted to take things further than I was willing, and it eventually came to the point where he tried to force himself on me. It was a ... bad scene, to say the least. I don't want to go into details about what happened.

It wasn't long after that that I became openly lesbian. Sometimes, I feel like if it weren't for what happened, I could be bisexual. I've met a few guys who I think I could have fallen in love with, if I weren't still hurting from what happened before. I know how badly someone forcing an issue like that can mess you up in the head.

So don't fault yourself. Take what time you need to feel comfortable with the issues you're facing. When the time comes, you'll be able to find what will make you happy, so long as you listen to your heart when it tries to speak to you.

Johan · Veteran Member

I wish i could have forgoten already, but whenever i feel someone is getting too close, i remember what i felt that day. I wish i could be less sensitive, maybe it would make things easier. But as you said, time will probably makes things alright. I just have to wait till i met someone i'll let approaching me. I'm just afraid it will take to much time, but there's not much else to do ... I never talk about that to anyone. I don't want people to know, but here it's different. I feel like i can find help or something. Thanks Sakura-chan.

Sakura · Lurker

I don't even think it's so much that "time will make things alright". I think that when the times comes, you'll meet a person you want to be close to, and you'll want to be close to them so badly you'll finally be able to say "to heck with it" and approach them.

Trust me, I know how much it sucks to be in that kind of situation. But sooner or later it'll pass. And maybe it'll take some effort on your part--if you find yourself really liking someone, you might just have to plunge into it no matter how badly it scares you. There's a risk of being hurt... but the rewards of love are worth any risk.

No Soul King · Active Member

If you don't try to be together with someone you like soon enough they might get taken by someone else.

A long time ago when I first fell in love I didn't know the girl who I liked liked me back.
I keeped my love for her a secret because being friends is good enough I thought.
Then 1 day I told her I liked her, then she said she liked me back but we couldn't be together because she already found someone a week before.
So even today I like her but I just moved on keeping the memory of her alive to remember the good days of my past.

So don't keep holding off telling someone you love them, sooner is better.

angie · Master Member

The first time I told a girl I liked her in november last year, and I think it was a good experience since she didn't freak out. I already knew that she never could love me back the same way I loved her, she was a christian and she still is... Also she's about 3 yeas older than me, it looks like I'm only falling for the girls I can never have, 'cus this girl I like now lives far away as *** and is also older than me...

Nobody · Moderator

Just because she's Christian doesn't mean she isn't a lesbian.

No Soul King · Active Member

I just pretend everyone has no religion so its easy to understand their rules about socializing with the community.

angie · Master Member

Nobody: I know, but this church is the one that made our school so I think I can understand that probably all people in that church is heterosexueal, most of them are also homophobes. I know I already told you about my teacher and what she said about us ._.

-- Edited by angie at 19:27, 2007-12-13

Johan · Veteran Member

Thanks Sakura, NoSoulKing. I should have talked about that earlier. Maybe i missed something by pretending i was fine. I'm still confused and i need to find some answers, but i think it's time i stop thinking about that and do something. Anyway, thanks. I feel a little relieved now.

Nobody · Moderator

I'm glad that you feel better, Johan. You can tell us anything about you and we'll try to help in any way we can.

darkside · Senior Member

hmm.......well i have something that has been bugging me i have dated guys before and when it end i felt like i was just hanging out with friends you know what i mean

i just recently (1 year ago and still going) have been dating on and off with this one girl and it is confusing as i will get out (im trying to watch what i say) because we will break up and get back together you know how many times 5 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ugh
its like i cant get over her and it sucks

Nobody · Moderator

Well, you won't get over her if you keep dating her. It's obvious that things aren't going to work with her from what you said.

shadix · Lurker

well i'm straight, but i am not a homophobe. infact homophobes anoy me to death. i have several guy friends that are gay, one of them thinks i'm gay but i'm not, or else he would know. i only know two lesbians. one is really cool, the other is just anoying, she seems to try and push her self on all girls nomatter what way they go. but if i was a girl i'd probibly be les.

Sora · Senior Member

Ew, I ****ing hate those bitches. They like, UHG, I'm sorry, temporary anger, it shall pass. =]

shadix · Lurker

is it posible cto change my answer?

HexElf2 · Lurker

I will have to go with confused, I find a lot of things really attractive but once it gets physical I'm borderline asexual because I've never been comfortable with anyone so far.

Singol Darkwood · Newbie

Technically, I'm heterosexual, but I'm really beginning to wonder if I'm nonsexual(which is what I chose). I do think about sex, and I enjoy sex, but unless if it's easily accessible (like it was in my college days) I have no drive, nor draw to have it, or for that matter form couple relationships. I only had one girlfriend, and the relationship was never consummated, and after I left college, I haven't had any sex again. It's rather strange... I mean, I do find women attractive sexually, but more often than not, I much prefer being their friend and staying there, rather than trying to further it. It's like... a large gaping lack of interest.

This is really ironic considering I'm a romantic sap at heart. Perhaps I just haven't found the right girl yet.

On another note entirely... am I the only non-sexual?

-- Edited by Singol Darkwood at 02:34, 2008-01-13

Kio kun · Active Member

Hey! Not all guys are jerks! Really, there are some good ones! You just have to search, and look veeerrrryyyy hard.

I put bisexual, because I think girls and guys are both very attractive.

LadyTwilight · Senior Member

Girls, girls, girls~
I've developed less-than-crushes on a guy or two, but I don't think I would ever go into anything serious with one. Heck, I even tried to act like I was crushing on one person on an ORPG, and I couldn't stand it.

I definitely understand/agree with the male body is gross bit, I can't even stand the way my stepdad smells (from a distance, I don't run up and sniff him like my dog...), and that's not even my own body. I don't think I could stand to have the contact I'd need with a guy.

Anyways, there are definitely nice guys, and I know a whole bunch of them (a fair few aren't even taken! If someone wants one, come to Pittsburgh and I'll see what I can do ^_^), but nice isn't always everything, either...often, I can't even talk to guys well, because sometimes there's this biiig chasm between us, like.....like similar languages that can't always cross-translate, like spanish and french, or either and latin. Sometimes the concepts just don't get across like they would talking to someone who speaks the same language.

Although, I'm tempted to vote nonsexual, buuut I really don't know how I'd feel with someone I were that close to, so it's mere conjecture atm.

Vote: +1 Homosexual~

Schlaf · Veteran Member

Hmm I'm Bi, and only a select few trustworthy friends at school know, I can't bring myself to come out to my mother as Bisexual, lest I want to lose everything and live with my father.

So I guess you can say I'm the one partially out of the closet, jamming the door. Its not fun, especially when theres a girl I like, who I know likes me the same. We're both afraid to approach eachother because of our families.

selkieskin · Newbie

Singol Darkwood: I also think I'm asexual (which is odd as I love romance comics...). I've kind of assumed all my life I'd be a lesbian, or at least bi, because I can't talk to girls AT ALL. (I freeze up and can't think of conversation topics.) But now it's getting a bit late in my life to have still not developed sexual attraction towards anyone, and now I reckon the girls thing is probably due to the fact that all but one of the people I hang out with are boys. So +1 for nonsexual! Woo!

MalthusianCrisis · Newbie

I'm also one of the few who voted non-sexual. I've been in relationships with both guys and girls before but I've never actually been terribly interested or concerned with the sexual part of it. I was more attracted to the accoutrements of a relationship, like hand-holding, sappy romance, etc. than I was to the actual relationship itself. Generally, I've been more drawn to long-distance types of relationships because they are very non-threatening (it's hard to pressure someone to have sex with you when they're several hundred miles away).

Now I'm exploring a concept of my own creation, which I call "platonic romance." Basically all the facets of a relationship - dating, emotional support, flirting, semi-attraction, semi-sexual actions (hand holding, kissing, cuddling etc) - without the hassle, worry, paranoia whathaveyou that comes with sex. Of course, this may not work for everyone, but for those nonsexuals out there it may be a solution to the loneliness problem. You want to be with someone, but you don't want to have to deal with the expectations of sexual intimacy (which I, personally, do not). This solves that problem.

This was mainly inspired by my study of marriage throughout history, where I discovered that until the modern age most marriages were arranged and functioned more like amiable partnerships than passionate couplings. If one were to simply subtract the need to produce heirs from this equation, you've got my theory of "platonic romance," with the added bonus of the cutesy stuff men and women of the past neglected.

But I've probably rambled too long about this at this point... I guess if this idea works out, I'll let y'all know. Or something. Yeah.

The_DoG · Newbie

well...i voted as opened cuz at the moment i'd like to hang out with guys and girls and maybe in the future i decide which one i am ;)

i'm not the type that think much about sexuality so...

Serafer · Lurker

D: Where's asexual? *sniffles*

EDIT: Oups. xD I just related nonsexual with it. Haha.

-- Edited by Serafer at 03:48, 2008-02-13

-- Edited by Serafer at 03:49, 2008-02-13

gejsiv · Lurker

People label me as straight. I'm not as sure on that after reading some of this.

Do we describe ourselves based on what our bodies feel ro based on how our minds feel?

Biologically, yeah, I'm straight. Girls turn me on. Guys don't. That simple.

Mentally, I think I'm more non-sexual just because I've had too many bad experiences with girls. This isn't the "whine about girls cheating on you thread" so I won't go into it.

Point being, on what basis are these labels placed? I know for me there is a distinct difference between ym body and my mind/soul/what have you.

Oh, and yeah, guys are definitely gross. I personally hate my body and almost everything about it. Not that I'm looking to go trans-personally I want a robot body. ^^
Guess I'll have to go invent one. But then, if I had a robot body would I be a guy or a girl? And would I still be straight? Or non-sexual?

FMA · Newbie

Nobody wrote:

You know what's weird? Only about 9% of the population is homosexual, but only 12% of the forum population is straight. It's pretty funny when you think about it. lol

Then I guess most straight people just don't like these kind of webcomics. *pouts*

Anyway, I'm *straight*, but a lot of people think I'm gay or bi just because of some of my stereotypically feminine tendencies.

Setsuna · Lurker

TiffyKitty wrote:

i'm bi and i agree the best friend complex is the master of suckiness

yes i totally agree...i'm bi and the best friend complex gets worse when she finds out -_- trust me...

AbalidothAscendant · Lurker

I'm a guy, and I identify as a gynophile... in other words, straight.
However...
I've always felt that both gender and sexuality are way, way too fluid to pin down to any definite terms. Sure, I find some guys attractive in a way, and I can understand how sex with a guy would be enjoyable. So... I identify as straight, but I have it as a base assumption (possibly a wrong assumption) that...
a) Nobody, including myself, is completely male or female.
b) Nobody, including myself, completely attracted to one gender or the other.
c) Love is love.

I don't know. People are probably going to want to flame me for this. ^_^;

Utena · Lurker

yeah i put homosexual cause well...ima be honest IM A BIG DYKE!!!!!!! lol well i **** around with guys but its just fun like i wont do anything but thats about it

oneshot555 · Veteran Member

ok im straight i love women and im pretty shure of that lol still while reading this i have a few vewipoints on this thred

1.Girls not all guys are bad im a guy and though im kinda tryign to defend my genders side just lisen theirs the jerks of corce but when it comes down to it when you look at the actual good guys YOU are the ones that deni them that reject them if girls accepted nice guys then their would be less jerks wouldent their?

2. homophobes are wrong you should have the freedom the like whatever gender you want i have a homophobe freind who im trying to convince these veiws on

3.i personaly dont make fun of any sexuality difference but i do know why ushaly peaple do. Lisen peaple fear different peaple anythign different from them they fear and through that they look at gays bi's les the same as some dose from skin color. They look at everything and to make them feel stronger and better about the selfs they try to overcome their fear by tryign to put you down and by that make them fear superior

homophobes are just stupid retards so just ignore them and just make out on their lawn thatll piss them off XD

shadix · Lurker

i also believe that homophobes are idiots, this country was founded for people to have freedom in their lifestyle. but no, we can't have that.