It says this section is where people go for advice so....here it goes. theres a girl i really like but not quite working. heres the story.
her name is amanda and i met her on deviantart, an art site. this was about november of 2005. we talked on aim, got to know each other, i liked her art so i bought it. were going to meet up on her college campus and exchange money for art but didnt quite work out since i apparently waited in the wrong place (it was a big college). around jan, i asked her out but she said she didnt want to get attactched to someone that was moving (i was moving in a few months), which was kind of understandable.
so i move to arizona in april of 2006 and we still talk alittle on aim cuz now shes busy with stuff. i ask her out (which was stupid, now that i look back) and she said no, long distance sucks. then i stop thinking about it until i started moving back to cali where amandas only 25 minutes away or so, thens when im like "hey, when i get back, lets get together" and she says shes happy now with us ust being online. i tried again afew months later after we got kinda close again and got hte same response.
two months later, my friend heather drags me to an art convention where amandas selling her art, i go to her table, too...nervous to say anything, but her drawings and goes (good golly gosh shes attractive). later that we i send her a message saying sorry i didnt say anything, i was nervous, she said she didnt recognize me (cuz i'd changed so much since i moved), i asked what she thought, she said i was attractive. we left it at that for awhile and then we talked andshe mentioned a journal i wrote along while back she took the wrong way and got that cleared up.
this past week, ive gone through a lot after talking with my friend stefa,i decided to give it one last shot with amanda, try one more gesture, ya know? so im wondering what i should do. i dont want to do anything too big and be pushy, but dont wanna do something so small its not noticable andtaken as a friendship thing. the only idea i have left is a drawing along the lines of "you give me the warm and fuzzies". should i just accept that shes not really interested that much and happy with online friendship or try one last thing or just...idk. what do you think?
Online relationships are hard and in own experience, they never work out. What you have here is different, though. You live within driving distance, so it could work out.
Honestly, she's probably looking for more than just text. That's why she said no every time. It isn't because she probably doesn't want to be with you, it's just that she's looking for more than an IM. It's like the equivalent of slipping a note to someone you like in junior high. We all know how well that turns out, don't we? Some of us from the horrible experience.
Here's my advice, take it or leave it. Ask her to meet you, but don't stay on her campus. Go for a walk in a park or just go take her for a dinner or something. Then really confess to her. It's a whole new ball game in reality, though. I'm sure you already know. Confessing to her face will make a bigger impact.
Confessing online is really easy, but doesn't have the same impact. The other person tends to think of it as cheap if they really like you.
well, ive suggested we get together for a bite to eat when i first moved back and she said she was busy and then that she was happy with just an online friendship. if it was up to me, i'd be us dating in person...
