I want to be decisive, couragous, and clear.

LadyTwilight · Senior Member

I want to be decisive, couragous, and clear.

Wandering Mimic · Veteran Member

Glad to hear you found someone like that.

I'd like to be helpful, but decisiveness is not my strong suit. Hell, I hope someone gives you a good tip, because I could use it myself.

Yurilover90 · Lurker

That's a tiny reason of why I joined the Navy (this is NOT a recruiting attempt!!!) I talk fast and think faster, but in the military, they teach recruits how to be clear, concise, and decisive while still thinking things through clearly and exploring all options and possibilities.

What I am attempting to convey here is that such characteristics do not instantly appear with a realisation. They take time and practice to develop (I just found a community that helps me in doing so).

To answer your question, be open and honest that you don't want to screw it up! Maybe let them know a little how you tick, so they won't be surprised/confused/insulted/or whatever should you mess up trying to explain something. For example, some people get mad at me when I joke about a serious situation because they don't know that I am being serious...that's just one of my quirky characyeristics.

abe · Active Member

As Yurilover90 implies, one way I can think of to modify your habits of speech and thought is to practice, preferably with somebody or some group who can critique, offer suggestions, and encourage.

You might also practice using some method that forces you to slow down, such as writing things out (though this may help more with figuring yourself out than with expressing yourself in speech).

Secondguessing and overthinking are hard to overcome, but maybe you can try reminding yourself that waiting for perfection is always bound to fail; again, a friend to give you an occasional prod can be helpful.

In any case, best of luck with this person...

Major-HXH · Veteran Member

Yurilover90 wrote:

in the military, they teach recruits how to be clear, concise, and decisive

"JUST SHOOT!!" the sergeant said.
That's clear, concise and decisive.

I'am just kiddind XD

gappiee · Guru

usually ppls initial toughts on things are the right ones...... well not right but its what they acctually want. so i guess its best to go with what comes to mind the first (i never do this i think stuff over a million times ) and the courage thing ...... well im not good at that at all but i think it helps if you just pack your bags an go travel for some time(go backpacking i mean).