I don't have much of my own advice to give so I looked out to a friendand learned he'd had a similar sort of experience--from the other side. We're known for superfluous capslock so semi-rewritten paraphrasing to follow (original text here):


<@Hitoshura [Paraphrased by Lady Twilight/Endy]> "I think it would be best to not have contact with the other girl, but they might start acting like a stalker. I've had firsthand experience, and remaining friends is not a good idea, and I wish I'd known that when I was going through it, because it took about 4-6 months to take that advice and stop acting like a stalker and I broke off all contact.

I really HATED her at first, a lot, but time went on and wounds healed, and about a year ago I was ready to talk to her again and apologized to her for being an ass. We live in different cities now but we're definitely friends, and reconciling lifted the burden off my shoulders from the experience.

The problem is that it's very difficult to get people upset like that to listen because they tend to believe with all their being that it's possible to work it out 'normally'."


So my [Back to LT] own suggestion in light of this is to make it as clear as possible to her that in her lose/lose scenarios she can try to get your friendship immediately but that it wouldn't work well in the long run, or she can try to live on separately from you for some time and you two can become friends later when the hurting hearts heal.

--LT (+Hitoshura)